Why do men tell lies

You first and foremost need to know some potential reasons why most men lie to their girlfriends and wives. When you have demonstrated to your man that you tend to be dramatic and upset when dealing with difficult truths, he might develop the tendency to lie. This is because he will be trying to keep peace when it comes to discussing difficult topics. Even if he might not lie out-rightly, he will tend to sugarcoat or avoid a volatile subject all together.

If a man thinks that him telling the truth may not render any positive consequences, he may be tempted to lie so as to get out of a situation. Men are more practical while women lean towards being rather emotional.

A man is more likely to say the truth when there is a chance that it will have a positive effect. It depends on how you look at it. From one angle it might actually seem like a compliment because a man is just trying to please and impress you. However, objectively speaking this is far from being a compliment. Rather, it reflects on nothing else but essentially insecurity. It is an indication that your man is not comfortable being himself, not even with you. Now that we looked at some potential reasons why do men lie to their partners, we can turn to answering the question of how to effectively make him stop telling you lies.

Is he lying all the time to the point that it is seriously affecting your relationship? Here are some ways you can stop his behavior. If you catch your man lying or strongly believe he may have been lying to you, think about what might have triggered and motivated him to lie. Thinking about the context of the lie is important.

It can help you ascertain why he needed to lie or felt the need to lie. A big reason why some men feel comfortable lying continuously to their partners is because they are or feel enabled to do so, by their partners.

By taking the blame every time your man lies, you are helping him cover up for their bad behavior. The bottom-line is that your boyfriend is an adult and as such is responsible for every action he takes consciously. No matter how you put it or the situation at hand, he had the choice to tell the truth but he chose to lie. Part of being in a mature and healthy relationship is taking the responsibility when you make a mistake. I became so consumed with being a liar that it turned into who I was instead of what I did.

Every time I told a lie and it was successful, believed, and received, it empowered me to lie more. I was not a good father. I was not a good husband. My justification was that I was doing what I needed to do in order to stay alive in the environment I was in.

Seven years ago, I retired. But I began to write my stories down. And so the process of finding Jay and letting go of Bird really began. I have made a million mistakes, but between God and my wife and my kids, I have been given a million and one second chances. He contested the results but in finally admitted to doping, implicating his teammate Lance Armstrong.

When I started using PEDs in cycling, no one was paying attention. I was just some guy who helped other people win. But in , I won the Tour de France, and everything changed. So instead I chose to keep the code of silence. I kept lying, and that weighed on me for years, every time I lied to friends, fans, and my family. Finally, in , when it became clear I would never cycle professionally again, that incentive was gone.

As soon as I started telling the truth about doping, it was a tremendous relief. Of course, the feeling of relief was tempered by the foreknowledge—accurate, as it turned out—that Lance and the rest of the cyclists who wanted the story to die would go after me. I know that to most people my name will forever be associated with cheating. All of my achievements will have an asterisk; all those years grinding it out against incredible pain, alone on the road, are wiped out.

There was a time when I felt a sense of unfairness about all that. You drive a car, get a flat tire, have an accident, and die. Well, the rest of the car worked fine. These days, I would say my relationship with honesty has evolved. I am diligent about both being precise and telling the truth.

His is one of the stories chronicled in the documentary Welcome to Chechnya. Today, he and his boyfriend live in hiding in Europe. I am a very religious person and have always believed in honesty and justice. But I have, and my family has, suffered greatly for this honesty. I came out with my boyfriend to my family seven years ago in Russia. Our mothers took it okay. And we have a lot of trouble really understanding the way you think also.

But here's the deal: If we both admire the way the opposite sex thinks, if we both admire the way the opposite sex acts, and if we really listen to one another, our relationships will be far better. Because I don't expect you to think like a man. I don't expect you to act like a man. I admire what you are as a woman. And as a man, we just want you to hear us.

So the next time a man tells you something, listen. Listen really carefully to what he says. If you want a further explanation of it, ask him to clarify it. I'm on your side, ladies. I don't want you to be shocked the next time a man breaks up with you. I don't want you to be all confused and have to torture all your friends with endless conversation about why this man disappeared.

I want you to fully understand us. We say what we mean. So listen. You're not going to change us. Only we can change us. No matter how powerful or beautiful or seductive you might be, if a man tells you something like, "I don't really think I can be in a relationship right now," then just respect that. If you respect that and you nurture that and you allow a man that space, then you might end up in a relationship with him.

And you won't be frustrated, upset, and delusional. You'll actually become more pleasant. I've found that women who give men space and really listen to them, are women that have long, amazing relationships.